{"id":2216,"date":"2019-03-27T03:05:40","date_gmt":"2019-03-27T03:05:40","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.yourmindstrategy.com\/LIVE\/?p=2216"},"modified":"2019-01-15T00:47:32","modified_gmt":"2019-01-15T00:47:32","slug":"habit-formation-for-success","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.yourmindstrategy.com\/LIVE\/habit-formation-for-success\/","title":{"rendered":"Habit Formation for Success"},"content":{"rendered":"

Habit Formation for Success.<\/strong><\/p>\n

This model is the most powerful concept I\u2019ve ever learned when it comes to productivity and getting the most out of yourself. It\u2019s called Habit Formation, and it\u2019s a synthesis between Zen and Systems Thinking. Weird, I know. The most important and powerful state we can be in is\u00a0the state called Awareness.<\/p>\n

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Habit Formation for Success<\/h2>\n

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Awareness is when we remember we\u2019re alive. We zoom out for a second and see the bigger picture. Imagine you get in a major car accident, and it shocks you so much that you call up all the people you love and tell them you love them. That\u2019s Awareness.<\/p>\n

The rarest and most precious form of ENERGY we have is Will Power. We get a tiny bit of it each day, and we often waste it on things that aren\u2019t that important (like holding back our true emotions). Now, it takes about twenty-one days to form a new habit. If you do something every day, it\u2019ll take on a life of its own after twenty-one days.<\/p>\n

Days 1-7 is the first phase. I call it Defying Inertia. Inertia is the innate resistance to change. Everything inside you will tell you, \u201cNo, I don\u2019t want to do that!\u201d<\/p>\n

Days 8-14 is the second phase. I call it Resistance. You\u2019re no longer defiant, but you still have to push through. You don\u2019t naturally feel like doing it yet.<\/p>\n

Days 15-21 is the third phase. I call it Acclimation. The resistance starts going away, and it begins to feel like what you are doing is the natural thing to do.<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s how this ties back to Awareness and Will Power. When we get some Awareness and Will Power, we can use them to start or develop a new habit (what I call a Routine). That way, twenty-one days later it\u2019ll have a life of its own, and you won\u2019t need more Awareness or Will Power to keep it going.<\/p>\n

Then, the next time you get Awareness or Will Power, use them to start a NEW habit, and repeat the cycle. When you do, you\u2019ll become so productive you won\u2019t even believe it.<\/p>\n

The goal is to work in a way that creates not only great results but also satisfaction and enjoyment for us. We don\u2019t need to become robots that just produce results, but we also don\u2019t need to get swept away by things that give us immediate pleasure but cost us results we\u2019d proud of having, that make a difference in our life.<\/p>\n

Another important element that\u2019s often overlooked is that it\u2019s the TRANSITIONS that often trip us up. If you want to start going to the gym, you have to plan for the \u2018on ramp\u2019. If you don\u2019t, and spend time looking for your clothes, shoes, or keys, your time gets cut short, causing you to fail before you even get started. The same goes for your \u2018off ramp\u2019 when you get done working out and re-join your track for the rest of your day.<\/p>\n

Planning for these ramps will increase the chance that the new ritual will stick, and reduce your anxiety and sense of \u2018rushing\u2019. Most people who are trying to learn a new habit or ritual use Will Power to move through it. If you do so, you will probably find that after half an hour or an hour, you are exhausted. The moment you are exhausted, you will go back to your former habits because there is simply no more energy left. After a few days of this, you will conclude that you are incapable of learning a new habit.<\/p>\n

I once saw a lady in my practice who wanted to learn three new habits at the same time. I explained to her that she was setting herself up to fail. Those entrepreneurs I work with who get this point go on to design very effective work schedules.<\/p>\n

The quality aspect of focus is WHAT you are focusing on. For example, the outcome you want rather than just the work in front of you. Additionally, as we build our ability to focus on just one thing at a time, we want to work on our ability to focus for longer and longer periods of time. That\u2019s the quantity aspect. Right now, how long can you work on one thing at a time before you go check your email or voicemail?<\/p>\n

And how many different things do you focus on during the day?<\/p>\n

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We want to work our way up to focus for a full forty-five minutes on just one thing. Most people don\u2019t focus on one thing long enough to get big results. We want to fix that.<\/p>\n

In life, we have a few leverage points that can give us tremendous results. These are things we usually have to be proactive about, to go and get done. These include things such as educating ourselves, working out, etc. You must be the one to decide to do these things. If you have a business, there are just a few places where most of the leverage exists.<\/p>\n

The same goes for your relationships and health. Most times when someone starts something and they cannot carry on or they procrastinate, it\u2019s either because they don\u2019t know how or they have unmet emotional needs.<\/p>\n

I have found that when you can break something down to fifteen-minute chunks, it becomes something that you can do.<\/p>\n

The converse of the above is that if you cannot break down a project into doable fifteen-minute chunks, you cannot even start the project. I have written twenty books, published about ten of them, and developed new business projects using this rule.<\/p>\n

When I cannot provide chapter headings for the main ten or twelve chapters of the book in fifteen minutes, I know I am not ready to write the book.<\/p>\n

When you don\u2019t know how to do something, you simply need to learn how to do it. For example, you are supposed to balance your checkbook, but keep procrastinating. Finally, you can\u2019t put it off any longer, but when you sit down to do it you don\u2019t know what to do because your
\nbusiness manager who normally does it is now on vacation.<\/p>\n

Simply having someone walk you through the steps once or twice would have solved the problem.<\/p>\n

By learning to accept feedback and constructive criticism, you will be able to expand your thinking and become much more creative.<\/p>\n

Part of setting good goals is thinking about how you will achieve them. The important part of the process is how you manage that change and how you can grow as a result.<\/p>\n

You may choose to have an accountability partner. If you are doing the online coaching version of Freedom Formula, every time you have a coaching call you have the opportunity to be held accountable.<\/p>\n

In order to get leverage if you just focused on three things, for forty-five minutes each, and did this every single day, what would those three things be? Make the list.<\/p>\n

Next, what would the outcome be if you focused on each of these three things for the next three-five years. Write down the actions required for each of them.<\/p>\n

Pause the audio for a while if you need to.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s important to focus on what you want to achieve, not on what you want to avoid. Your unconscious mind doesn\u2019t know how to get rid of the \u201cDon\u2019t\u201d part of a thought, so if you\u2019re focused on the negative you\u2019ll attract more of it into your life.<\/p>\n

For example, if you say to yourself, \u201cDon\u2019t drink, don\u2019t drink, don\u2019t drink\u201d, your unconscious minds hears \u201cDrink\u2026 drink\u2026 drink.\u201d<\/p>\n

You may want to find out what you are really good at. You may have some ideas yourself, but you can also get objective feedback from people around you. Sometimes you may have taken on someone else\u2019s idea of what you are good at. You may even have convinced yourself that you\u00a0are good at something because your best friend or your father was good at that. So it\u2019s important to be objective.<\/p>\n

What do you enjoy or what would you enjoy given a chance? It\u2019s important that you explore and discover what really excites you. So focus on achieving positive outcomes, not avoiding negative ones. At the same time, it\u2019s important that you are honest with yourself about what you want more of in your life and what you want less of.<\/p>\n

You may want to test different types of businesses or opportunities if you have not done so. Sometimes you may have some idealistic or romantic notions that may not stand the test of time. You may want to do a medical degree because you want to help others. You start on a
\nmedical course then discover that you cannot stand the idea of drawing blood.<\/p>\n

One lucky listener that posts a review on iTunes will win a private confidential consultation and coaching with me on discovering your soul\u2019s purpose. I will lead you on a personal journey to discover your unique mind-body psychosomatic map of your life. You will get a detailed report and a personal 45 minute consultation with me that is worth thousands.<\/p>\n

On this podcast I\u2019m going to help you design a life that works. So you are able to say yes to the things that matter and eliminate everything else that slows you down. The more clear you can be about how to organize your daily life to support your bigger vision, the more you\u2019ll step into your true potential, stay on track and accomplish all that you want and deserve. Are you ready to make that happen?<\/p>\n

Feel free to reach out to me to ask your questions at\u00a0AskDrSun.com<\/a>. Your life is a gift. Design it. Do what matters and join me each week as we get closer to designing the life of your dreams. I am Dr Sun. Join me next week on Your Life by Design.<\/p>\n

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